Are you your real self to people?
Do you make people happier and ease stress?
Do you fight fair when having a problem or a conflict?
Do you remember to please yourself as well as others?
If you answered “Yes” to all of these questions, you are likely to have a healthy relationship.
What is a healthy relationship like?
A relationship is a way in which two or more people behave and are involved with each other, as defined in the dictionary. There are different types of relationships from acquaintances to romances, such as friendships, family relationships, professional relationships, and romantic relationships. So, “a relationship requires a lot of work and commitment.” (Greta Scacchi); it sure is that a healthy relationship requires much more.
Why should you have healthy relationships?
A healthy relationship is a master key to bring happiness and health to our lives. Simply said, healthy relationships play an essential part of healthy living. Studies reveal that people with healthy relationships really have more happiness, less stress, and even live longer.
When do you know you are having healthy relationships?
The big sign is when you live your life more happily and comfortably than miserably.
How can you create and maintain healthy relationships?
There are some basic ways in which two people develop a connection to make relationships healthy.
It’s you who can create and maintain such relationships.
Be yourselves and your best selves!
The first person who you should take care of when in a relationship is yourselves. The better self-esteem you have, the better you create and maintain healthy relationships. When you respect and value who you are, you are likely to do the same to others’ individuality and identity. Be real you, not something or someone else. That is the best version of you. Healthy relationships are created from real people. Be honest to yourselves – how you feel, what is in your mind, and what you needs. You should be able to express yourselves. You perhaps try too hard to please people around you just because you wish to be liked or loved. Don’t forget to please yourselves too. Healthy relationships are mutual care and concerns. Sometimes, those disappoint you. It’s true that you can’t change anyone. What best you can do is only accepting who they are. Healthy relationships are flexible and accepted.
Be trustworthy person!
If you make promises or plans with someone, carry out promises and follow through plans. If you take on a responsibility, you are supposed to complete it. If you have deadlines, meet them. Healthy relationships are dependable.
Be a giver-and-taker!
Give “quality” time, not only “me” time. You should take interest in one another’s activities or jump in to be part of them. Give respect to and trust in each other’s feelings, needs, decisions, and expectations. In return, those qualities should be given to you. Healthy relationships are two-way quality trading.
Be a leader-and-follower!
We are all designed to have different social status, roles, and power. In some cases, you have to yield to someone, and allow he/her to influence you. Healthy relationships are yielding.
Be an on call supporter!
When you are really in need, be heart-warming, willing, and ready to serve and save someone’s day. All your physical, educational, social, and emotional support not only helps relationships healthy, but also unforgettable. Healthy relationships are counting on each other and really about being there.
Be an understanding communicator, a rational negotiator, and a fair fighter!
Comprehensive communication is the first step to build a relationship. Listening is the first communication door. You should be a good and genuine listener, with your ears and your heart. And when something seems to be going wrong with you, you should negotiate to talk about it. It’s best to speak up. Talking is healthier to your mental health than holding it in. Healthy relationships are sensible and negotiable. When disagreements happen, solve conflicts in a fair way. Each other has equal right to speak for each self. Healthy relationships are compromising to reach a win-win goal.
Be a boundary keeper and a private zone saver!
To keep relationships healthy and secure, you probably need to create a comfort zone and designate a boundary. It’s about respecting each other’s privacy, not a sign of secrecy or distrust. You don’t have to share everything while in a relationship; you don’t need to share passwords to your phone, emails, or social media accounts. Do whatever makes each other feel comfortable. Healthy relationships require privacy and space also.
However, relationships are subjective. Different people define relationships in different ways. There is no a perfect relationship. Neither is there a perfect way to create or maintain a healthy relationship. A relationship is like a chemistry connection experiment. You have to conduct the experiment in your own ways to see which way works best for you. Although, other people help make your life easier and more satisfying, but they can’t guarantee life-long satisfaction and happiness for you. Only you can fill and balance your life. Remember, while in a relationship, when you see things don’t work out eventually; no matter how much you have tried, stand up and take right to leave a relationship. Unlike a happy-ending novel, healthy relationships need to be realistic. It’s you who decide to move on or move out of a relationship.