Looking after babies is more stressful than what carers usually claim. Carers seldom discuss the fear and stress that is experienced. Fear is experienced when considering the possibility of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome), accidents, or disease. Stress is experienced when the carer must subject the baby to atrocities such as immunization. Stress is also experienced when the baby is upset, but the carer is unable to find the source of the problem due to a lack of communication. In their carers’ misleading opinions, babies are easy to manage.

Oxygen is essential and babies need to breathe. If the baby’s breathing is obstructed (or restricted), the result will be death (or retardation); this is known as SIDS. The causes include: vomit that cannot be completely ejected, bed sheets and blankets that smother the baby’s face, having the baby sleep face down – reducing airflow, or the baby may roll face first into cot bumpers – reducing airflow. In addition to restricted breathing, disease could also have life-threatening consequences; therefore, the carer must consider the cost of preventative - medical treatment.

Immunization is disheartening, but necessary. The baby must be braced to avoid any movement when the needle penetrates the skin and muscle, and as the muscle fibers separate, baby will scream giving anyone within listening distance the impression that baby is undergoing amputation of a limb. The carer will question the benefits of immunization; the benefits of this seemingly torturous task. While the pain experienced may be brief, the disease may be life-threatening or maiming. At night, the baby may be feverish, so will cry for hours if follow up medication is unavailable. The baby cannot verbally identify the problem; the baby will simply wail in grief.

Communication is taken for granted. As adults, we infrequently realize how much we depend on communication; however, babies know only how to cry. Sometimes, even when nappies (diapers) have been changed, stomachs have been filled and the air ejected, and every other effort is seemingly made, the baby continues to cry. The source of the problem could very well be as insignificant as a mosquito bite or as over-whelming, constipation, headache, or fever.

Baby may vomit, urinate, or evacuate bowel contents on the carer; cry seemingly for hours, lie inanimately or kick unforgivingly, but the carer will not love Baby any less. Moreover, the carer will report a modified version of the experience at the first opportunity. The carer will say babies are no trouble at all – incorrectly believing the child to be perfect and unethically having an audience believe the child to be perfect, also.