Dialogue

Communication is one of the important skills bring us success. Dialogue is the tool for improving this skill.

      

                                     Dialogue

 

 

     We all know that communication skill is very important in our daily life and work. Everyday we must talk with many people - our family, our friends, our colleagues, our boss and our customers. But there are many times that we can’t do it well in the aspects of good understanding and satisfaction.  Why?  

     The reason is we always speak not listen. We like to speak in our own view and hardly listen in other people’s . So we can’t truly understand their whole stories . We want just express our idea and ignore others’. We always  believe  “we are right the others are wrong”. And this make us can’t connect to other people.  

      Many schools teach us about speaking but very few teaches about listening. How we can teach ourselves to listen and how we can unite our listening to our speaking. Today i will talk about a tool that will improve our communication skill. It’s called dialogue.

 

       Dialogue here is not like definition in dictionary but it’s a tool for a good communication. It composes of 4 components.

1. Respecting:  We must respect all the people we talk with as the same level .Don’t differentiate them by age, sex, education, social class or nationality. We must see their value as human being and respect for their individuality. This is the most important attitude we must have first before starting our dialogue.
2. Listening:  It’s not  only a simple listening but a deep listening. Deep listening is a listening that we carefully intend to get the meaning in their talk . It’s like we go inside and sit in their heart. Just listen!
3. Suspending: While we are listening, it’s always our thought emerging to criticize that talk in our view. And at that moment we’re stopping our listening because we’re talking with ourselves. We’re separating ourself with the speaker. So we can’t get more information.
4. Voicing: This is our turn to say something. We can start our talk after there is a pause of other speaking for 3-5 seconds . It ‘s not a simple speaking . It’s our inner voice speaking from our heart not our brain. It’s not necessary to look good but it must be our real feeling. And we can show our emotion too. 

       

      We can practice and use this dialogue technique for 2 or 3 persons  or many people in a group. If we do it in a group, the mediator must tell the rule of the dialogue to the participants.  Everyone must listen when the other speak and can’t interrupt. And everyone must show their inner voice. The mediator must manage time properly don’t allow anyone take more time to be dominant.

 

      The main purpose of our communication is understanding each other . When we  understand each other frequently, we will have trust in each other too. And when we have more trust, we dare to open ourselves . Finally we all get more understanding together.

 

       All of this process will occur after we always practice the dialogue in our daily life. We must be conscious and intend to do it. It’s a skill , so the more we practice, the more we achieve. These will bring us more success and more happiness in our life.